Arguing over what is right or wrong and what needs to be done or ditched at work is unavoidable. It happens all the time between employees and or managers. You might have been in a similar situation where you need to defend your ideas in an argument. You feel confident that your ideas would bring such positive impacts or values to the company yet at the same time it is almost impossible to convince everyone to agree with you without having one or two colleagues go against your brilliant ideas.
When it comes to defending your ideas and winning any arguments, being a convincing persuasive person is mandatory. The way you choose to act or how you pick your words during an argument determine the outcome of it. Here are some tips that I could share with you to help you win an argument at work:
1. Stay calm and relax
During an argument, it is likely that the situation gets tense. However, stay calm and relax. When your opponent raises his/her voice, you improve your argument instead. When presenting your ideas, be loud with a clear voice and do not be shaky to show everyone that you are confident with your own ideas.
Also, your body language may also overpower the argument. Staying still indicates your opponent that you are not convinced or persuaded. However, it sends them a signal that you are on an equal level with them and in agreement with them while it also unconsciously leads your opponent to trust you. Also, when presenting your ideas, be loud with a clear voice and do not be shaky to show everyone that you are confident with your own ideas.
2. Listen to your opponent
When we are in an argument, sometimes we get too focused on our ideas and how we are going to deliver them that we fail to listen to what our opponent has to say and assume that they are going to be a 100% against us. Avoid this habit and learn to listen to them carefully. When you pay attention to your opponent, you will actually learn their weaknesses and flaws that could be used to strengthen your ideas. Not only will you be able to learn their weaknesses, you will also be able to get informative and useful ideas from your opponent.
3. Be prepared
When it comes to arguing, the winning side wins because they are always prepared. This pattern can be learnt and observed easily. Those who win are always ready whenever the opponent starts to attack them presenting strong arguments that could subvert and crush your ideas. However, the winners are always prepared to present valid data that supports their ideas, making them undefeated.
4. Aim for the best solution
After all, is winning an argument something that you aim for?
The tendency to want to win an argument stems from our initial idea going in that we are right and the other person is wrong. However, having proven that you are right and your opponent is wrong sometimes does not give you anything more than company’s recognition. When you and your opponent could actually team up and collaborate together to produce greater ideas, you will get the best solution you and your opponent would have never thought of shall you decide to do everything on your own and you might even get to improve your ideas while everyone is in the same state of winning and achieving a greater good.